Helping someone start the journey

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Seeking help in the mental health system for the first time can often be an overwhelming experience. The person may already be feeling difficult emotions, such as shame or guilt, which can make it harder to advocate for themselves.

By the time they reach the professional who will be helping them, they may feel exhausted or even defeated. It may also be difficult for them to see the value in making future plans or to see the progress they have made in their journey just by taking those first steps.

If you are working with someone who may be experiencing these feelings, it’s important to remember to start slowly and to be gentle with them and yourself. Forging a connection can be challenging, and it is the critically important foundation for everything else that follows.

Here are some strategies you can try to collaborate with them and convey your commitment to supporting their journey.

Validate.
- “I know it can be difficult to find the right clinician, and I’m glad that you are here.”
- “I understand that you have been through a lot in your life.”
Express unconditional commitment.
- “I want you to know that my team and I are committed to helping you see options for the future even though you are feeling stuck and those options are hard for you to see right now.”
Invite a small start.
- “It may be hard to believe we are in your corner. Could we try one of the small things on your plan together to see how it goes? Even if you don’t think it could work - maybe try it as an experiment? What’s the worst that could happen?”

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